Tuesday, 15 May 2012

My brother cuts me off

I received an email from one of my brothers in America this morning that said:

"I’m kicking you out of my life, don’t communicate with me again."


I don't even know what he's upset about. I thought if I told you guys about it, I would feel a little lighter. Thanks for letting me unload.


Now you can see why I moved to England long ago. 

7 comments:

Steve Borthwick said...

As a wise person once said, you can't choose your relatives...

Karen Blakeley said...

As the Dalai Lama said on Radio 4 this morning, when asked whether he got angry at the predicament of his people, anger only hurts the person who is angry. It sounds like your brother is hurting and needs to blame someone to manage his feelings. I think Buddhist teaching would suggest you bless him and move on.....

Elizabeth said...

Now my son is going around the house saying, "Mommy, I'm kicking you out of my life," in a jokey way so I feel a little better. Thanks for your help, guys.

Tim Trent said...

I can see how that might hurt. We just received something similar from my late pa in law's wife. That amused us somewhat. However I have also had to say the same thing to a cousin. He had a choice, to make an apology or to be dead to me. He chose to be dead to me.

Families are peculiar things. What should be pleasant and happy is often unpleasant and unhappy. Bridges may be mended if you want, or left wrecked if you prefer. Either is fine, truly.

Dwell in possibility said...

Ugh. I'm so sorry. I won't get into particulars, but there are people like this in our family also. A differing religious or political opinion is enough reason for some people to cut off family members. I don't understand it.

-Rhonda

Michigan Mom said...

I've had this happen to me - years ago, actually, and it still bothers me.
What I try to remember is that this has nothing to do with me and everything to do with someone else. It's like you're driving along, following the rules, and someone comes by and smashes into you. It's totally his fault. You can't say, "Well, if I had been going a bit slower" or "if I had watched more carefully." No. It's his fault, and that's all there is to it.
But perhaps it's best that these kind of people are out of your life. Someone who treats you like this is bound to turn cruel to others in your family, or only be more awful later on.
Fortunately, you have many people who love you!

Elizabeth said...

Thanks so much to all of you for your help with this -- it means a lot to me. x