Sunday, 30 November 2008

Sunday morning

I got out of bed for a minute on Sunday morning and invader kids raided the area, taking all the Sunday papers with them. You'd never know this was their parents' bedroom, would you?

Oh well, I needed to get started rolling out the gingerbread boys anyway (below). I'm wearing my mother's old Christmas baking apron -- we've been wearing it my family since the 1960s. Even my husband Mel wears it sometimes when he is tasked with baking during the holidays.

I have to do things early as am going out at noon to a craft fair at my son's old school. I hope to meet some pals there for a cup of coffee.

While I was typing this, our new foster cat Lizzie came by to see what was going on. Here she is:

Katie is in the other room playing Christmas carols and singing, and it all seems very Dickensian right now in the house.

Saturday, 29 November 2008

Adventures with my daughter

I discovered a fab Mexican restaurant in Notting Hill and persuaded my daughter Katie to meet us for lunch. She had rounds at her hospital that day, and that's why she looks so nice. Here she is eating churros and Mexican hot chocolate.

She told us an amusing story from her morning. She was taking patient histories, and one of the first questions she has to ask is: Do you have any medical conditions?

A patient replied, "No."

Katie continued with the questions. A couple of minutes later, she asked: "Are you a diabetic?"

"Oh yes, I got that," said the patient.

Ha, how silly. The patient thinks he has no medical conditions but, yeah, he's diabetic!

After lunch, we went to a remarkable museum we'd never been to before, the Geffrye Museum. Will tell you about that tomorrow. But Katie got worn out by the end of the day and had to have a rest. Thank goodness she chose the one chair in the exhibit that you could actually sit on:

Brenda's Thanksgiving

Thanks for sending some Thanksgiving photos in for us to look at and be jealous that we weren't there. Here is regular blog contributor BWJ and her Thanksgiving gang. Look how happy they all look! That must have been some fine cooking they all just enjoyed (or did she spike their drinks?)

No, it must have been the food after all that made the guests so happy. Here's a pic of the cooks:

Elise's Thanksgiving video

I wish Karen Firbank used the computer because she could see how funny she is in my video of Elise's Thanksgiving dinner below.

Friday, 28 November 2008

Beautiful Italian earrings

My friend Karen Firbank gave me some beautiful earrings from Italy last night. One is a boy, and one is a girl and symbolizes my own children. Here she is last night displaying them:

She told me to make sure I wore them today, which I did. Here's another pic of these beautiful things:

Elise's Thanksgiving party


My friend Elise does a big Thanksgiving meal for some of her friends each year. (She has way too many friends for all of them to fit into one building.) It's so good of her to go to all that trouble to bring her friends together on Thanksgiving. Here she is last night:

Here's the table I was on so you can see how pretty everything looked:
Thank you Elise for a lovely Thanksgiving evening!

Thursday, 27 November 2008

Over the river and through the woods

No Thanksgiving holiday for me today because I'm in England but I'm thinking of Thanksgivings of the past and feeling grateful for all I have now.

Really Good Thanksgivings I've Had Include:

*My friend Elizabeth in Detroit had me to her house when we were at college in Missouri. Her mother Claudia is the greatest cook and person, and I had a fabulous day when otherwise I would have been alone in a dorm room.

*My parents let me come home for Thanksgiving from college even though it was expensive the year my grandfather had a stroke. I was so worried about him, and when I got home and saw him there, still alive, I burst into tears of relief in front of everyone.

Bad Thanksgivings I Have Had Include:

*The year my father made us spend Thanksgiving in a deer camp in rural Mississippi. He was in a brief deer-hunting phase but it was a horrible place. People were drunk and shouting by the afternoon, and my mother and I sat around embarrassed, desperate to get out of there.

*Any Thanksgiving where my father got into a rage over something. One year my grandparents were there, and my father got annoyed that there wasn't enough space on the table and picked my mother's centerpiece up -- it was a horn of plenty with gourds and dried stuff in it -- and hurled it across the room. No one said a thing in the moment that followed -- it was that awful.

But you know, I try not to dwell on the bad stuff.

I said in a post earlier that my friend Karen B and I disagree on religious issues and spirituality but I am definitely having a religious/spiritual moment today. Nokia is cutting back on hires and spending, and I got in under the wire with my new permanent job. That has given me a fabulous Thanksgiving -- I am so grateful for my job.

We always sang the Thanksgiving song 'Over the River and Through the Woods' at my school when I was a little girl so I had to find it on YouTube today and listen to it at work (below).

Did you know (for Thanksgiving)


You American-based readers out there spare a thought for us expats all over the world who can't celebrate a traditional Thanksgiving because we have to work. We'll be thinking of you enviously! Send in pictures of your day so we can see.

Here are some fun Thanksgiving facts:

Did you know that the first Thanksgiving took place in December 1621, when the Pilgrims held a three-day feast in Plymouth Rock, Massachusetts to celebrate their bountiful harvest?

Did you know that Thanksgiving didn't become an official national holiday until more than 200 years later, when in 1863 President Lincoln proclaimed the last Thursday of November a national day of thanksgiving.

Did you know that the most popular Thanksgiving dinner includes a menu of turkey, cranberries, sweet potatoes and pumpkin pie?

Did you know that Americans raise 649 million pounds of cranberries, 1.6 billion pounds of sweet potatoes, and 998 million pounds of pumpkin.

Did you know that there are at least three American towns named after Thanksgiving dinner's main course? There's Turkey, Texas, with 496 residents; Turkey Creek, Louisiana, with 357 residents, and Turkey, North Carolina, with 267 residents. There are also eight places and townships named Cranberry, and 20 places named Plymouth, after the location of the first Thanksgiving.

Did you know that as many 107 million American homes will celebrate Thanksgiving this year?

Did you know that the first National Football League's Thanksgiving Classic game was played in 1934, when the Lions hosted the game as a gimmick to get people to go to Lions football games?

But also:

Let's spare a thought for people who can't afford the same Thanksgiving they had last year because of this terrible recession. It's easy to get depressed over the state of our retirement funds and the declining value of our houses, but many people don't even have that.


If the only prayer you said in your whole life was, "thank you," that would suffice.

Meister Eckhart

Wednesday, 26 November 2008

Happy Birthday Mike


My brother Mike's birthday is today. In the picture above of my family, he's the one on the left on the bottom row. Isn't he handsome? (That's me next to him.)

I don't have many pictures of my family from that time so it's nice to see Mike there. I never knew him as well as I should have because my parents sent him off to boarding school at 13. I'm sure my mother didn't want him to go, but my father ruled the roost. It seems such a strange thing to do now because Mike wasn't around much after that, except during summers and holidays. Why would you do that to your family?

Now I live in England, and Mike lives in Iowa. But we can keep up more now that there's the Internet.

Happy Birthday Bro Mike!

Pampas grass equals swinging


I forgot to tell you this last week. I was talking to a woman in Reading, and she was telling me about her nice suburban upbringing in Maidenhead.

"Very quiet and nice," she said, "or so I thought." It turns out her parents told her that the neighbourhood was actually a playground for swingers. Her parents said they were pleased at how friendly the area was after they moved in because people kept coming by and visiting and introducing themselves...until, they found out her parents weren't going to party with them, then all the visits stopped.

Apparently, the sign to other neighbours that you were a swinger was that you planted some pampas grass or put a plant of pampas grass in the front. My friend said that some people sold their house and forgot to take the pampas grass away so you can imagine what happened when the new people moved in.

I thought of this today because a house around the corner from mine is up for sale and in the front of their house is some major pampas grass.

What do you think? Should I ask them?

Tuesday, 25 November 2008

A technical send off

I took this pic of my work pal Reeya's send off at work. She's getting married, and we all gathered to wish her well. I had to laugh when I took the pic because of the ugly programming code and diagrams behind her. But when you work in high tech, this is what your getting-married send off looks like. Congrats Reeya!

Lunchtime walk

Just walking around Nokia grounds during lunch -- a sunny winter's day. Of course the sun is going to set before 2:00 pm so you have to make the most of it while it's out there.

Interesting economic opinion

This is the guy who predicted the economic collapse long ago. Hear what he has to say today:

Back to 1970s food in England

British people are apparently giving up on new-fangled dishes and reverting to their 1970s favorites during this recession. See the article below. Has your diet changed because of the recession?

From today's newspaper:

Eating habit are reversing as quickly as the economy. Britons are dining on fish we used to give to the cat and preparing dishes that were the height of sophistication in the 1970s, with prawn cocktail and cheesecake enjoying a new lease on life. Waitrose says sales of scampi have shot up 80% in a year, while prawns have risen by 50%...."Our eating habits mirror the fiscal way of our world. We are laying in extra stock on the ingredients needed for cheese and pineapple sticks, beef stroganoff and black forest gateau."

Monday, 24 November 2008

German Christmas market

Can't get to the real Christmas markets in Germany this year due to recession and belt-tightening in our household, so my friend Di and I went to London for their German Christmas market from Cologne. They had the real huts with gluwhein, stollen, fudges and gifts so we had fun. It poured down with rain but the warmth of the mulled wine helped, as did the Bailey's latte we had later.

Here's Di at the market:


And a pic of some of the decorations in one of the huts:


We got stuck in traffic going out of London on the way home so I took a photo of the beautiful Chelsea bridge:


The markets run from 10 to 10 each day until Christmas, so get to the Southbank if you can (unless you can get to Germany).

An evening at Kaz's house


I went to dinner at my friend Karen's last night -- there were two other couples there who were so interesting to talk to. We had a little quiz, and I was the worst responder, even on the American questions. All I knew was that John Hancock was the first signer of the Declaration of Independence.

There's Kaz below:


I'd been fretting over religious disagreements I have with Kaz. I was worried that the gulf between what we both think would be too large and there would be an eventual split in our friendship. I voiced my concerns after a couple of glasses of champagne, and we worked it all out, and I felt much better.

We must not be enemies. Though passion may have strained, it must not break the bonds of our affection. Abraham Lincoln

I'm really such a worrying type -- Karen told me to take up Zen and chill out.

The biggest argument of the night turns out to have been over polyacrylamide -- an argument I could not take part in since I did English at college and know nothing about science.

Polyacrylamide (IUPAC poly(2-propenamide) or poly(1-carbamoylethylene)) is a polymer (-CH2CHCONH2-) formed from acrylamide subunits that can also be readily cross linked. Acrylamide needs to be handled using best laboratory practice (such as wearing appropriate gloves, lab coat etc. and having safe systems of work) to avoid poisonous exposure since it is a neurotoxin

Sunday, 23 November 2008

Minnie's last day

I told my son we could never have a pet because we live on a busy road and I work all day and it wouldn't be fair to the animal. In England, dogs have to be walked on a leash at all time, so there's no just letting them out the front door to roam, as it was in my youth.

I felt bad about him not having a pet, so last Christmas I got him a pet cat in a basket that breathes like a real one. It was a cute little joke gift, and we enjoyed watching the cat 'breathe' while it slept.

This year, however, I discovered that we could foster a cat until someone else adopted it permanently so we did that. We've had Minnie only a couple of months but she has transformed me from a doubting (cat) Thomas to a permanently-infatuated-with-cats person.

Today she goes to her new permanent home and it makes me sad.

I was walking down the hall the other day and noticed that the toy cat I got my son last year looks a lot like Minnie and what seems to have happened in my house is that the toy cat came to life for a few months, like Pinocchio (from Pinocchio: "Geppeto was astonished to find that the wood was alive. Excitedly he carved a head, hair and eyes, which immediately stared right at the cobbler." ). Or remember Raggedy Ann and Andy? They would come to life at night when everyone was asleep.

So instead of being sad over Minnie leaving, I'll think that the cat in the hall came to life for a couple of delightful months and just be grateful I had the experience.

Here's a pic of real Minnie and toy Minnie:


Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.
Howard Thurman

Saturday, 22 November 2008

Winter jasmine


My winter jasmine is blooming outside -- just thought I'd share it with you. It's already getting dark in England and it's only 2:20 in the afternoon.

Through the divinity of ourselves

I'm reading a book on American secularism and keep running across things I've never read before. One is Walt Whitman's preface to Leaves of Grass. In American high schools we read parts of Leaves of Grass, but never anything as controversial as this. We are having religious disagreements in this blog in 2008 -- imagine the reaction to this section, published in 1855:

There will soon be no more priests. Their work is done. They may wait awhile...perhaps a generation or two...dropping off by degrees....A new order shall arise and they shall be the priests of man, and every man shall be his own priest. The churches built under their umbrage shall be the churches of men and women. Through the divinity of themselves shall the cosmos and the new breed of poets be interpreters of men and women and of all events and things. They shall find their inspiration in real objects today, symptoms of the past and future....They shall not deign to defend immortality or God of the perfection of things....They shall arise in America and be responded to from the remainder of the earth.

Friday, 21 November 2008

They'll make a musical out of anything


I belong to a theatre club in London so I can get discounted tickets to new shows. I got the latest list today, and think I'll have to pass on this one:

The London premiere of new musical Imagine This, set in the Warsaw Ghetto during the Second World War comes to the New London Theatre.

There's always a set night to attend for this theatre group, and you are supposed to make friends with the other members by wearing a little sticker that announces your membership to all and sundry. I feel like an idiot wearing it though, so I always take mine off and stick it on my friend Meg Williams, who dutifully wears it until I turn away, then she rips it off. I pretend not to notice.

Instant bad news

I was just zipping through my usual lunchtime websites when I saw a post that BNP Paribas, the French bank, will be drastically cutting back on its bonuses this year. Well, my husband works at their London office, and has been worrying about whether there will be a bonus or not so I got on my new N95 cell phone and called him. Croaking, as I still can't speak very well from my recent illness, I asked if he'd heard about this.

No, he said, amazed that an outsider would know something that he and none of his group even knew.

Is that incredible or what? The way news is transmitted so quickly in the 21st century is a marvel, even if it's bad news.

My husband isn't a big executive there -- his bonus is what pays for our summer vacation. This year we were planning to use his bonus to upgrade our 10-year-old rusted Toyota that has 125,000 miles on it, but guess it'll have to wait until next year. (But I don't mean for you to start playing sad violins in the background -- we are both thrilled to have jobs at all in this recession.)

This is surreal

Take a look at this Sarah Palin video. She's pardoning a turkey for Thanksgiving then proceeds to talk for several minutes while turkeys are being slaughtered right behind her. Actually the guy killing the turkeys is right in the frame with her. Didn't anyone notice?

Wednesday, 19 November 2008

Should the government bail out the auto industry?

I'm still sick today so am turning over the blog to Elizabeth, my friend in Detroit. Here's her post:

"Do you think the government should bail out the auto industry?

I don’t know what to think.

On the one hand, these car companies and the UAW have been living ridiculously for years.

The UAW negotiated the most insane contracts I’ve ever heard of. Workers could retire after 30 years with something like 70 percent of their salary for the rest of their lives. The UAW also got comprehensive health insurance for auto workers’ families - for life. I had a friend whose father was a factory worker; he died about 20 years ago, but his mother continued to have full medical benefits until she also died a few years ago. I mean I’m all for labor, but health insurance for life?

Then there are these outrageously paid car execs. I have a friend whose husband works for GM. He’s an upper middle management kind of guy, but nowhere near the top. His holiday bonus was $60,000. That’s right - $60,000. I told his wife that was the craziest thing I had ever heard, that plenty of families in Detroit are forced to live on half of that – if that much - for an entire year. But she never felt it was anything truly exceptional. If this guy got $60,000 for a holiday bonus, what were people in the top echelons getting?

And they’ve known about these problems for a long, long time. The GM wife told me three years ago that the company was headed for big trouble; what have they done to fix that? Nothing that I can see.

On the other hand, if GM goes then Ford and Chrysler will, too, and that’s about 4 million jobs in my already troubled state.

Here’s an excerpt from the lead story in today’s Detroit Free Press:

The nation’s worsening economic outlook took a further toll on Michigan’s battered labor markets during October, pushing the state’s unemployment rate to a level not seen in 16 years."

What do you all think? Thanks Elizabeth for this interesting post. (Anyone else want to post something? Send it in....)

Just adding this item to post from ABC news for additional info:

The CEOs of GM, Ford and Chrysler may have told Congress that they will likely go out of business without a bailout yet that has not stopped them from traveling in style, not even First Class is good enough.

All three CEOs - Rick Wagoner of GM, Alan Mulally of Ford, and Robert Nardelli of Chrysler - exercised their perks Tuesday by flying in corporate jets to DC. Wagoner flew in GM's $36 million luxury aircraft to tell members of Congress that the company is burning through cash, asking for $10-12 billion for GM alone.

Societal trends reshaping the American electorate

Sorry if this is too wonky. I was interested in this report though so thought I'd post part of it. Website for more info is at the bottom.

"Discussions of the current political situation and comparisons between the 2008 election and earlier contests frequently overlook a crucial fact. As a result of changes in American society, today's electorate is very different from the electorate of twenty, thirty, or forty years ago. Three long-term trends have been especially significant in this regard: increasing racial diversity, declining rates of marriage, and changes in religious beliefs. As a result of these trends, today's voters are less likely to be white, less likely to be married, and less likely to consider themselves Christians than voters of just a few decades ago.

The combined impact of these trends on the composition of the electorate has been dramatic. Married white Christians now make up less than half of all voters in the United States and less than one fifth of voters under the age of 30. The declining proportion of married white Christians in the electorate has important political implications because in recent years married white Christians have been among the most loyal supporters of the Republican Party. In American politics today, whether you are a married white Christian is a much stronger predictor of your political preferences than your gender or your class -- the two demographic characteristics that dominate much of the debate on contemporary American politics."

URL for more information:
Center for Politics

The Time Machine view of life

I have been sick today -- thanks for keeping my blog going with all of your insightful comments. It cheered me up when I finally got out of bed to read what you had to say today.

I have an enormous bedroom window that looks right out on to the busy road below. (We live in urban Reading so the street is never quiet.) This morning after my body rebelled at getting out of bed and I knew I'd better just stay at home today, I looked out on the morning rush hour. It was 7:30 and the bus stop was full of people trying to get to work, cyclists rode past, schoolkids walked by with their mothers, cars honked and jostled for position -- it felt as if the entire world was just coming to life. For me, though, there would be no lively day so I closed the curtains and went to sleep. During the morning, Minnie the cat discovered I was at home and came to sleep on the bed with me. (Such a sad delight -- she leaves us on Sunday for her new home.)

I was zonked out all day. When I finally got up and opened the curtains, the day was ending. I could see tired people walking home, bundled up against the cold. More people at the bus stop, cars filling the street again and so on. What a strange feeling for me to look at that and realize an entire day had passed that I had no part in.

I felt like the main character in the Time Machine. This movie is rerun all the time so you must have seen it. He gets in to his Time Machine and turns the clock to the future and watches all the people passing by his house as time marches on. My favorite theme is how the department store across the street changes -- the skirts go up and down, the fashions change -- and he just watches, fascinated. He has no part to play in those lives -- he's merely an observer.

What Dale Carnegie says about arguing

We've been having more heated discussions on this blog. On the one hand, a good argument is reviving; on the other hand, I don't like disagreements and often feel guilty about things I've said. (That comes from my youth -- if you disagreed in my family, you got a slap.)

I was looking through some books over the weekend, and I found an old Dale Carnegie book, How to Win Friends and Influence People. A place I worked for in St. Louis gave them to all new employees; guess they especially liked Carnegie because he was from Missouri.

I read the section below with great interest, bearing in mind that at that time we were having disagreements in this blog. What do you think of this? Do you think this is an antiquated view of life and maybe doesn't apply to high-tech things like comments in a blog?

I have come to the conclusion that there is only one way to get the best in an argument -- and that is so avoid it. Avoid it as you would rattlesnacks and earthquakes.

Nine times out of ten, an argument ends with each of the contestants more firmly convinced than ever that he is absolutely right.

You can't win an argument. You can't because if you lose it, you lose it, and if you win it, you lose it. Why? Well, suppose you triumph over the other man and shoot his argument full of holes and prove that he is non compos mentis. Then what? You will feel fine. But what about him? You have made him feel inferior. You have hurt his pride. He will resent your triumph. And --


A man convinced against his will
Is of the same opinion still.

Tuesday, 18 November 2008

They ate Velveeta, and they didn't even know it


Further to my post from last night, I made a delicious quick 'n' EZ meal -- will post recipe in case you need something fast to cook some night:

Brown some ground beef, throw in a ovenproof dish
Mix in hash browns, thawed from freezer
Pour in a can of Cream of Something (can be anything) soup
Add cheese

Cover this and cook in oven for 30 minutes. It's delish.

My English family looks down their noses at processed cheese like Velveeta from America. I was going to make a dish earlier this year with Velveeta, and my daughter let me know she would not eat it unless it was made with 'real cheese.'

So last night I was making this dish before anyone came in the kitchen, and I mixed Velveeta up in there. Did they notice? No. Ha ha. Velveeta has entered their bloodstreams now, whether they like it or not.

They like me better this way

I'm starting to get ill, and the first thing that has gone is my voice. I can only speak in little rasp-like gasps. I came in from work tonight and didn't immediately yell out to my son and to the cat. My son eventually came closer to look at me. Why wasn't I shouting, he wondered? I gestured and tried to convey that I couldn't speak.

And do you know, he smiled at me. Him smiling at me is as rare as the Grinch smiling. Later, after I cooked dinner, I followed him around with clean clothes and pointed to some he had dropped on the floor. I did a thumbs up or a thumbs down to ask him if they were clean or dirty. He responded to let me know they were dirty. We usually get into an argument over him throwing clothes all over the floor but not tonight.

"You know," he said, smiling at me again (wish I'd had a camera with me to prove it to you), "I like you this way much better. Maybe you could stop speaking from now on."

I'm sure there is a lesson here for me to learn. Will ponder it.

When my husband came home just now, he and my son ended up whispering to each other in the kitchen over dinner. I wanted to say that just because I can't speak doesn't mean they can't talk normally, but of course I couldn't say anything.

Monday, 17 November 2008

Riding on a bus in a tuxedo

My husband and I went to a Cambridge reunion dinner at Pembroke College in Oxford over the weekend.On the way to Oxford though, we had an argument over whether to go or not. We jumped on the bus outside our house to get to the station. I felt very weird going on a bus in my fancy clothes -- and there was Mel in his black tie/tuxedo. "Why don't we ever do anything normal like drive to the station instead of getting on a bus so overdressed?" I asked. We had words over that then got off the bus in a huff to walk back home, then decided to go after all so got on another bus. I thought I might as well get a pic of Mel on a bus in his evening getup:


At the end of the ride, the bus driver seemed so pleased to have had a toff on board. "Here we are sir!" he said as we arrived at the station. That made me grumpy too -- I am always so nice to bus drivers, always thanking them as I leave, etc., and they just ignore me. But this one oozed charm to Mel -- just because of the way he was dressed.

Finally we got to Oxford. I had never peeped inside one of the old Oxford colleges before so it was very interesting. Here's the room where we met for champagne before going into dinner:


The dinner itself was delightful, and I made several new friends. I'm in charge now of getting a group of the girls together in January for a day at the Nirvana Spa in Reading.

Here is a pic of the hall where we ate. It was beautiful, except for the computer screen they kept lit up all night.

Here's a final not-so-good photo of one of my new friend Peter Williams, a doctor in Oxford. He is writing a book on snails and wants us all to buy a copy for next year's Christmas stocking (not out until then, I think). Why would you want to write about snails, I asked, but he informed me that they were very interesting. His friend at the dinner, Peter Bright, confirmed to me that the subject matter was fascinating as he had had the opportunity to actually read the manuscript. The book is called 'Snail' and will be published by Reaktion Press.

Sunday, 16 November 2008

Christmas baking

Do you find that you are so busy during the week that by the weekend you are a doltish lump, unable to do much at all? I get stuff done on the weekend, but not with my week-time zest (engendered by having to go to the office everyday, I guess).

Today I decided to get a headstart on my Christmas baking, especially since I have a Christmas meeting of my bookclub on the 1st and we all have to bring some baked goods. Last year Martina, my friend from Vienna, made all sorts of homemade treats, and I couldn't stop eating them. My favorite was her almond crescents that reminded me of cookies we used to get from a baker during my youth in Vicksburg, Mississippi.

I just quadrupled my mother's sugar cookie recipe so I shouldn't run out by Christmas but we are such pigs in my family that I'll bet we do. I just caught my husband in the fridge now getting some of the sugar-cookie dough so he can 'test' it.

I have to go now and roll out all this *&^% sugar cookie dough and cut out the cookies, bake them, then ice them. Then I'll put them in the freezer, ready for the holidays, but am wondering how many will actually still be in their bags when I go to find them.

Sugar cookie recipe

1 1/2 cups powdered sugar
1 cup butter or margarine, softened
1 teaspoon vanilla
1/2 teaspoon almond extract
1 egg
2 1/2 cups Gold Medal® all-purpose flour
1 teaspoon baking soda
1 teaspoon cream of tartar

Mix powdered sugar, butter, vanilla, almond extract and egg in large bowl. Stir in remaining ingredients. Let dough chill in fridge. Roll out cookies and cut with Christmas cookie cutters. Bake at 400 degrees.

To ice, mix icing sugar, a little milk or water and some food coloring. Be prepared for the cookies to be devoured almost instantly. They are that good.

Later:

Just finished these cookies. Take a look at the assembly line below.

Saturday, 15 November 2008

Ernestine Rose? Never heard of her.

I'm reading a book about American Secularism and have run across a radical called Ernestine Rose -- I've never even heard of her yet she was a very important freethinker in the mid-1800s.

Ernestine Louise Rose (January 13, 1810 – August 4, 1892) was a Jewish feminist, abolitionist, freethinker, and atheist. She was one of the major intellectual forces behind the women's rights movement in nineteenth-century America.

At the age of five, Rose began to "question the justice of a God who would exact such hardships" as the frequent fasts that her father performed. As she grew older, she began to question her father more and more on religious matters, receiving only, "A young girl does not want to understand the object of her creed, but to accept and believe it." in response. By the age of fourteen, she had completely rejected the idea of female inferiority and the religious texts that supported that idea.

Some of Rose's interesting thoughts are below:

It is an interesting and demonstrable fact, that all children are atheists and were religion not inculcated into their minds, they would remain so.

Do you tell me that the Bible is against our rights? Then I say that our claims do not rest upon a book written no one knows when, or by whom. Do you tell me what Paul or Peter says on the subject? Then again I reply that our claims do not rest on the opinions of any one, not even on those of Paul and Peter . . . Books and opinions, no matter from whom they came, if they are in opposition to human rights, are nothing but dead letters.

Sick of Sarah Palin?

Just sign this petition to implore her to go away. I'm excerpting some of it here, but to actually sign it, click on the link below.

To: Governor Sarah Palin

Dear Governor Palin,

We the undersigned implore you to remain in Alaska (where your national security credentials are required to repel a Soviet invasion) and stop giving media interviews and press conferences.

Maybe you missed what was going outside your small circle of adoring fans but you and your team were soundly defeated in the 2008 election. Sensible citizens rejected your fear mongering, divisiveness, guilt by association and rambling incoherence in favor of an articulate leader whose vision has brought millions of people together from all walks of life.

Governor Palin, you had your 15 minutes of fame, and now they’re thankfully over. America has far more important things to do than listen to you right now. If, in the future, the war against terror or another political, economic, social or environmental meltdown demands the best mooseburger recipe, rest assured we will call you at 3:00 am (EST).

Until then, however, the best way to serve this nation you love so well is to just shut up. Enough already.

Sincerely,

(you)



Click here to sign the Sarah Palin petition.

Friday, 14 November 2008

Team-building dinner

Permanent employment at Nokia has definite perks. One is that we get to spend a set amount of money on a team-building activity. The group I went with chose a fancy restaurant so we could team-build through eating. Other groups do things active things like paintballing or jumping out of airplanes but I prefer the more sedate type of event like eating.

We went to a Michelin-starred restaurant in Knightsbridge. Here's what one of their dishes looks like:


I printed a menu out to peruse before I got there. On the train up, my colleague Simon texted his friend in Milan to get him to translate the menu items and to advise on appropriate wines for the meal.

I ate this lineup (below). Mmmm, was it good:

Cooked cheese with Sicilian caponata

Flat spaghetti with lobster and fresh tomato

Pan fried cod with lentils and herbs

Chocolate fondant with gianduia ice cream


Here are a few pics. I have an embarrassing video but my friend Cristina, who stars in it, will only allow me to put it up on my Facebook page. We finally got home at 1:30 am, and it was back in the office at 8:00. I am going to need so many lattes to get through the day....


Thursday, 13 November 2008

The wonders of blogging

I love my little blogging community here. Sometimes I get tired of trying to think of things to write about and think about deleting the whole thing and going back to being a totally private person but then something magical happens to make me want to continue. I wrote a post about Louise Griffith dying recently. She was a Kentucky girl who had moved to Portugal, and we rented a house from her and got to be good friends through the force of her magnetic personality. I wrote about how sad I was to hear that she had died and thought that would be the end of that.

Today, however, I got a beautiful email from someone who knew her -- the tribute he wrote was so nice that I got a bit teary-eyed reading it. He doesn't want it published but it is things like this that make blogging a great experience.

We discussed this in book club the other week. How can you write all that stuff for public consumption, one of the members wondered. (They are very private people.) I thought about it and said that I valued the sharing with a community more than I valued my privacy. What is privacy anyway? I'm just a person on the Earth for a brief period then it's all over. What do I need with privacy if it means missing out on connecting with all you unknown friends out there?

Another religious topic

Whenever I go to the southern part of America, I enjoy reading the signs on the churches. Here are some good ones:



Wednesday, 12 November 2008

Rehearsing for another concert

I've started rehearsing with the Philharmonia Chorus in London again for a Christmas concert at the Albert Hall. One of the pieces is Vaughn Williams' Fantasia on Christmas Carols -- it's so beautiful. We're singing with the King's College singers from Cambridge. Here they are singing this piece:

Tuesday, 11 November 2008

Remembrance Day

The actual anniversary of the end of World War I is today, even though Remembrance Sunday was celebrated all over the UK on Sunday.

Here's the Queen laying a wreath at one of the ceremonies to mark the day:


I posted my husband's favorite World War I poem on Sunday, so today will post my daughter's:

If I should die, think only this of me:
That there's some corner of a foreign field
That is forever England. There shall be
In that rich earth a richer dust concealed;
A dust whom England bore, shaped, made aware,
Gave, once, her flowers to love, her ways to roam;
A body of England's, breathing English air,
Washed by the rivers, blest by suns of home.
And think, this heart, all evil shed away,
A pulse in the eternal mind, no less
Gives somewhere back the thoughts by England given;
Her sights and sounds; dreams happy as her day;
And laughter, learnt of friends; and gentleness,
In hearts at peace, under an English heaven.

The Soldier
Rupert Brooke


PS
Driving into the office today, I heard that England only has three remaining soldiers from World War I. Their ages are 112, 108 and 104! Can you imagine being that old? One of them fought in both world wars.

On a domestic note:
Our kitchen flooded last night from a broken part on the washing machine. I thought Minnie the cat should have come and told us, like animals do in movies. But it was left to my friend Meg who was spending the night with us to tell us about the flood. We were shoveling water into pans and throwing it out the back door before breakfast.

Monday, 10 November 2008

The manger scene

I think the way I'm trying to find Christmas things that my mother had during my childhood is a way of grieving over her death. She had a little ceramic Christmas tree that lit up, and I found one of those on Ebay last year.

Harder to find though, were the nativity figures from Italy that were common in the dime stores of my youth. My grandmother bought a set for my mother, and we kids had so much fun moving the figures around and putting the donkey up on the roof of the manger so my mother could scold us later. My mother gave the manger scene away because she figured I'd never want it since I stopped believing in God. But the manger scene has nothing to do with God in my mind but everything to do with my childhood spent with her.

It has taken me ages to find someone selling these vintage figures on Ebay in the US. I figure the original owners of the 1960s creches are dying, and sellers are finding them in estate sales.

Here's the nativity scene.

By the time I start zooming in on it so you can see the figures better, it starts to look eerie, like something out of the Twilight Zone. In real life, though, it's all totally benign.

The reason I have close-up photos is that I can't decide who Joseph is. There's a big guy in light and dark brown that isn't part of the original set -- I think he's Joseph, but he looks so scary -- looks like he has encephalitis and is a close relative of Frankenstein. I want to use the littler figure next to Mary, but I think he might be a shepherd -- there used to be a staff in his hand. Would it be OK to put the shepherd next to Mary to pass him off as Jesus's dad?


Sunday, 9 November 2008

Remembering the dead


Sunday is Remembrance Sunday in England. At 11:00, England goes silent to remember the country's war dead. I'm supposed to attend a service as a member of the Red Cross at the old military barracks in Reading but that means marching in the cold and rain then standing for the outdoor memorial service. I always enviously watch the MPs who attend this service go into one of the buildings for sherry and lunch in a nice heated room while I stand outside.

Every year at this time, people start wearing poppies on their lapels. The poppy is a symbol of the poppy fields in Belgium where so many British lost their lives in World War I.

Below is my husband's favorite World War I poem by Wilfred Owen. He explains that the last two lines of Latin mean "Sweet and noble it is to die for one's country," and refer to a poem by Horace that glorifies war. Mel says, "The Horace poem was very important in World War I because it was used to rouse young men into volunteering for the military. Owen's use of the line is, of course, ironic."

Bent double, like old beggars under sacks,
Knock-kneed, coughing like hags, we cursed through sludge,
Till on the haunting flares we turned our backs
And towards our distant rest began to trudge.
Men marched asleep. Many had lost their boots
But limped on, blood-shod. All went lame; all blind;
Drunk with fatigue; deaf even to the hoots
Of tired, outstripped Five-Nines that dropped behind.

Gas! Gas! Quick, boys!–An ecstasy of fumbling,
Fitting the clumsy helmets just in time;
But someone still was yelling out and stumbling
And flound'ring like a man in fire or lime...
Dim, through the misty panes and thick green light,
As under a green sea, I saw him drowning.

In all my dreams, before my helpless sight,
He plunges at me, guttering, choking, drowning.

If in some smothering dreams you too could pace
Behind the wagon that we flung him in,
And watch the white eyes writhing in his face,
His hanging face, like a devil's sick of sin;
If you could hear, at every jolt, the blood
Come gargling from the froth-corrupted lungs,
Obscene as cancer, bitter as the cud
Of vile, incurable sores on innocent tongues,–
My friend, you would not tell with such high zest
To children ardent for some desperate glory,
The old Lie: Dulce et decorum est
Pro patria mori.

Addendum:
I ducked out of the remembrance service as I needed to get food for us to eat today and next week. I was in one of those packed-out supermarkets where it is hard to get from one place to another with all the people when 11:00 came. Over the PA system came the sound of chimes and an announcement that it was now 11:00 and time for two minutes' silence. Well, didn't everyone stop dead in their tracks to observe the silence and remember the war dead. I was so moved by the scene, standing there in the middle of the detergent aisle as I was, that I got teary. I said to Mel later (he was in the chilled meat section at 11) if he didn't find it moving but he didn't. Men.

Next Tuesday is the actual anniversary of the armistace -- the 11th hour of the 11th day of the 11th month so this will give me a great excuse to put up a post about another war poet. I just love those guys.

Saturday, 8 November 2008

Another meeting of the Book Club

Here's a pic of my dear book club from our meeting on Monday night. We try to think of creative ways to take photos:

This month's book was the Seige of Krishnapur by JG Farrell. Three of us loved it; the other two didn't like it all.

The meeting was at my house, and, as usual, Minnie the cat didn't want to give up her prime space on the sofa for any of the group.

I stupidly bought a bunch of food to serve that I like myself so before the meeting even started, I had eaten half of the Doritos and chocolates that I bought for them to eat. My son Mikey had eaten 3/4 of the Spanish olives before anyone arrived too. Next time I'm only buying items I don't like so I won't be tempted.

Friday, 7 November 2008

My daughter remembers my mother


My daughter sent my mother's name to be included in a remembrance service for the dead at the chapel of one of the hospitals that is associated with her medical school. Here's her report (btw, my mother's nickname was Meemers):

"I've attached a picture of the chapel, where it didn't take place. We just waited until the start time in there. Then they called us into the foyer and gave us candles, which we then lit one by one, passing the flame along from one to the next. We turned and went down the stairs into the crypt. We all stood around the grave of Thomas Guy, the founder of the hospital, in a smallish room lit only by our candles. There were about 15 of us, and it was very intimate.

We went through the prayers and we had two hymns - one of which was Thine Be The Glory, which I've never sung before. Since the service was in the crypt, there were no instruments, the hymns were sung just by us. It was.. intimate, I suppose. I know I keep using that word, but it was.

They read Meemers' name out from the book of remembrance, and I'll have you know that they pronounced McKay right. Then they gave us Communion - well, I turned it down. It wouldn't have been right for me to have it. They did give me a blessing, though.

Oh, but they said Psalm 23! You know, the one I used to read to Meemers! That made me well up a bit.

I saved the book with all the hymns and prayers and what-not in it for you. At the end, we blew out our candles, so the only ones remaining were the ones above the grave of Thomas Guy. It would have been spooky on Hallowe'en, but it was just... nice, in this context. Before we blew out the candles, we went round offered each other, oh, what was it? Was it peace, blessings? I can't remember, but we offered it to each other. I was nice to the vicar, and I had to keep asking her what I was supposed to do. She was nice about it, though."

I was so touched by my daughter doing this for my mother. My mother's maiden name was McKay which is pronounced McKai in the UK so I was worried they'd read her name out like that and it wouldn't be like it was really for my mother, but they did it the American way.

Thanks Katie; that meant so much to me.

Obama supporters left with empty lives

This YouTube video from the Onion is so funny. It's about people like me who got obsessed with the presidential election and now have nothing left in our "pathetically empty lives" as the Onion puts it.

Wednesday, 5 November 2008

Brits and the election

Strange to be in the office today after such a momentous election yesterday. The Brits are sitting at their desks, quietly working, as normal, while in America something big has happened. I wanted to come in and shout about the change in American political life when I came in but just went to my desk and sat down as usual.

My colleagues have been great about asking me about the election and who I wanted to win, etc. But with such detachment they ask -- not with the fevered emotion of my fellow Americans. I'm the only American who came in to work on my floor because I got some sleep last night. I think the others stayed up all night so they didn't miss a moment.

It's odd to be outside the loop by not living in America. Would be nice to be part of the party over there now.

A black president

I was up at 1:30 in the morning last night to see Obama win Pennsylvania. I figured that was it for McCain so went to bed for another few hours then got up again to watch the final election results.

I was driving to the office this morning thinking of my childhood in Natchez, Mississippi, and how there were separate entrances in stores for whites and blacks. I was remembering when I accidentally drank from a 'colored' water fountain at the Jackson Zoo, and somebody told me to stop doing that. I remember looking at the 'colored' bathroom entrances and wondering how they were different from the restrooms that I was supposed to use. I was very young and didn't understand these things.

I remember my father driving by certain gas stations and telling me those were meeting places for the Ku Klux Klan. I did a post about this earlier:
Beauty and Terror

Black men were routinely murdered in Natchez on Saturday nights during the Civil Rights era -- my father was the town pathologist so had to go out and attend these crime scenes.

Here are a couple of pictures of the KKK marching in Natchez when I was a child. Amazing to see them trying to intimidate black men in one of the photos and now, a generation later, we have a black president. Amazing.